Peer Rivalry

Today I received 2 missed calls from the school teacher. I called back but engaged. Wonder what happen, then my babysitter mentioned to me that HE was biten by another girl in school. Oh no! Although I understood that this situation was not uncommon in preschool, I felt sorry for my daughter.

When I picked her up, she showed the bite mark on her right arm.
Me: " Who bite you?"
HE: " J*****?"
Me: "Did you cry?", HE nod her head
Me:" Did you hit J*****?" HE nod her head!
I asked again to check the chronology of the event, but I couldn't get clear answer ( expected also)

Then the teacher told me what was the situation though none of them really witness the incident. But the teacher suspected that it could be a change in behaviour of that little girl as her mother was expecting too.

I was glad that HE appeared to be happy, talkative girl still. However, what worry me was that she kept quiet after she was biten. At this age, she was still not good in hiding her sad face, which prompt the auntie to find out what happen, but she still refused to tell until another teacher asked her. I am concerned that my girl seems to be a reserved person, I have to make sure I am close to her so that she is willing to share and keep communication open. I have to remind myself constantly that one day she may shut communication off if hubby or I am not careful in keeping the bonding.

Sending HE to preschool

Despite having to pay both babysitter and preschool, meaning more expenditure to hubby and I, we still go ahead to send HE to preschool as young as before she is 3. We believe that the critical time for learning is 0-6 years old. Instead of letting her watching TV all the time at babysitter place during these golden years, she is better off in learning more things in a preschool.

I like the concept of montesorri that develop good character in children including being independent and proactive. ( as I have seen many youngsters that wait to be spoonfed and very passive in my working areas, although they are probably smart and have good knowledge). Hence we send her to a Montersorri based preschool sometime near my place for half-day. Then HE is back to babysitter place until we pick her up after work. We make this arrangement as keeping the babysitter allow us to be more flexible in case we come home late or need to be away during weekend for work. Apart from that, HE love the babysitter and we are satisfied with her so far as she is indeed good.

Apart from first day, babysitter is the one sending and pickping HE to and from school for the past one month. Since I am on leave today, I send HE to school. As mentioned by babysitter, HE doesn't reject the school, but she stay really quiet and shy, even to her regular teacher. This is so opposite to her normal self when she is at home or babysitter place, which she is non-stop talking and running here and there. As I say bye-bye to her, her expression is down, eye fill with tears as she watch me going out. Anyhow, my heart also sank. "Have I done wrongly by sending her to school? maybe she doen't like the school at all?" suddenly these thoughts and sense of regrets creep up. But at least she didn't reject teacher to carry her when I walk to the car, that shows that she does accept her. Hope she will get used to the school soon and be a cheerful girl there.